For the first paean to blogging psychosis, try here.
Bloggy problem #4- The give and take. As several people mentioned, blogging is interactive. Without the give and take, the medium doesn’t accomplish one of the primary purposes of blogging, which is to connect with others who have had similar experiences or with whom you find common ground. My problem comes with managing my blogroll. Here’s how it works, at least in my world:
1. You leave me a comment. (OR, I see a comment on a fellow blogger’s site).
2. I check out your site.
3. If it looks non-axe-murderer-ish, and I feel like I can intelligently comment on your topics, then I add you to the blogroll.
4. I read you for a few weeks- the honeymoon, if you will. I comment.
5. If you, during those sweet honeymoon days, comment on something I’ve written on my blog, then I consider you permanent.
6. Until you leave me in the dust.
7. At which time I’ll make a final attempt, commenting on your site.
8. If I receive no reciprocal comments, then I hit “unsubscribe”.
9. And you are history.
This is the modus operandi for friendly blogs, that is, blogs who share a similar mindset. But I’m not so closed-minded as to never check out and/or subscribe to blogs that walk to the beat of a different drummer. And I do have several of those on my blogroll- blogs that inspire me to think, to see things from a different position, and who challenge my worldview (Read: liberal/atheist/or non-mommy blogs).
Which is great, and I think we need more of that. We just might understand the other side better. So here’s how it works for those alterna-blogs.
1. I find you. Almost always. Very rarely do alterna-blogs leave me comments.
2. I comment, usually disagreeing (cause…you know. You’re wrong.)
3. I either get ignored, insulted, or intelligently responded to.
4. If it’s the third of those, congrats! We can now commence the bloglove.
5. Thou art summarily added to ye auld blog list.
What about you? How do you add/delete/manage the blogroll? What’s your psychosis system?